As we enter our second week of school, I find myself a bit nostalgic as I think back to Ryan’s time in school. It’s hard to believe that it has been five years since he graduated high school! I truly believe that one of the reasons he was successful in his school career was my willingness to commit to working with his teachers.
What do I mean by that? We began each new school year by scheduling a meeting with the principal to walk through his new school and/or new classroom. We took pictures of the various rooms in the building so that he would have a frame of reference when he imagined what the first days of school would be like. This was helpful because Ryan was always very anxious about change. During the first week of inservice, I would meet with Ryan’s entire team. When he was in elementary school, few children with autism were enrolled in the “typical” classroom. I saw this meeting as an opportunity to educate staff; not only about Ryan, but about autism as well.
I provided a fact sheet, “Tips about Ryan,” which identified the essential information that each teacher would want to know. For instance, very loud noises are troublesome to Ryan. He would pay attention to the sound, place his hands on his ears, and be oblivious to everything else going on in the room. In addition, I was always sure to emphasize that because Ryan’s brain functions differently than the teacher’s or mine, this impacts how Ryan would respond to classroom instructions. It’s my belief that these tips helped to make the day much smoother for both the teacher and Ryan.
I also believed it was important to meet weekly with the teacher(s) to discuss his progress and challenges. This assured consistency between home and school – a critical variable for Ryan. Looking back, I drove to his school in blizzards as well as frightening early morning meetings at 7:00 AM! I was fortunate that my best friend, Jeanne, attended as Ryan’s advocate. She was great support. I would encourage all parents to take a friend to team meetings. So much is being discussed and it’s helpful to have someone taking notes.
Whether you wish to hold weekly meetings, write letters, or any other strategy, I can’t stress enough how important it is to maintain open lines of communication with your child’s team. Because you know your child best, you are the most important member of that team.
I wish you all a great school year!
Welcome back to the start of this 17-18 school year! Judging by the smiles on your faces, I’m sure that you all had a great summer. I’m really looking forward to the positive changes that our PBIS team will bring about this year, and I wanted to share a few thoughts of my own.

As this past Sunday was Friendship Day in the US, I wanted to share a few of my thoughts about friendship. Friendship can be a challenge for children on the spectrum. From my personal experience, Ryan sadly had no friends during his years at school. I often thought, “Wouldn’t it be wonderful if someone would invite him to their birthday party?” Unfortunately, that never happened. Ryan preferred the company of adults. I think that was because the adults would take the time to listen to him when he would speak in a rapid manner and would wait patiently for him to him to formulate his thoughts. I think that these adults recognized the importance of kindness more so than Ryan’s peers.
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Recently, Ryan and I had plans to fly to Chicago for my nephew’s wedding. I was concerned because Ryan had not flown in 15 years. How would he do? The long security lines, loud noises, tight spaces, and of course, the inability to leave on time… all of this had me worried, to say the least. Fortunately, he did great! He watched out the window the entire time we were in the air. However, I know air travel is problematic for many families.
I’d encourage you to investigate if there is a “Wings for Autism” chapter in your community and/or work with your local ARC chapter to help ease air travel. I’m going to write to our local airport municipal authority, as well as the airlines that service Erie, to see what we can do to bring these same services to our community. Why don’t you do the same?
As school starts to let out, I’m sure many of you are considering how the transition from school to summer will go. This can be a challenging time for some families – it was certainly a challenge for Ryan and I! What I learned over the years was that structure is essential and a day full of planned activities was best. To facilitate this, we would look at the calendar at the beginning of the summer and count the number of days for summer vacation. Then, we would add our activities to each day. This way, Ryan could look ahead and see what day he was going to be golfing, or going to the amusement park, or just beaching it on Lake Erie. Having a schedule helped to reduce his anxiety about what he would do the following day and reassured him that he would be having lots of fun throughout his summer vacation!

