Do you remember being in school when you and your classmates would gather in the gym for the annual class photo? I remember all of mine (some dreaded, some not) and my son’s. This tradition of capturing the class photo continues throughout most schools today. I haven’t thought much about class photos recently until I read a post titled “The Class Photo that Broke a Mother’s Heart.” Her son, with Spinal Muscular Atrophy and confined to a wheelchair, brought home his photo to show his mom. And, instead of sitting with his class, he is in his wheel chair sitting, as mom describes, “three feet away” from his class. This mattered to his mom…does it matter to you?
We all hear the words: fully inclusive, least restrictive environment, regular education initiative. Children with special needs are enrolled at their neighborhood preschool, grade or high schools. In my experience, I’ve heard many parents share how pleased they are that their child will attend the same school as siblings and friends. But when we consider the day-to-day school social activities, such as lunch, recess and class photos, I wonder: How much inclusion is truly occurring?
This matters to all moms of children with special needs because we want them to have friends, be part of a group and be seen as who they are — not what the disability is, not what the diagnosis projects them to be, or where they “should be” placed…”three feet away.”
Yes, we have come a long way but we need to continue working on increasing understanding and changing attitudes about children and adults with disabilities. That is what I hope that I am accomplishing though my blog and advocacy efforts. Inclusion is not a room, but an understanding and willingness to look at each person as an individual. The child or adult is a person first. Let’s accept and welcome him or her into our communities, school and beyond.
Great post, Maureen. I saw the photo you were talking about and it broke my heart. I think we have come a long way but we have a long ways to go. Loved your quote by Stacia Tauscher! Hope the kayaking went well!
Thanks for continuing the follow me Sally. Unfortunately, we were rained out from Kayaking but are hoping for better weather in the future. Happy 4th!
Unfortunately, this attitude starts from the first day of class by labeling those kids “disabled”. I hate the term “special needs” and so does my oldest, who has moderately severe hearing loss. We found out late (she was six at the time) about her hearing loss. And I will never forget the day when I overheard some of her playmates talk about her: “you can’t play with her anymore! She is retarded”. It has been five years. It still hurts!
It disapoints me that after so many years both children and adults still use the term retarded. I encourage you to search my blog history where I write about ending the use of the “r” word. Happy 4th.
This very point is what makes us appreciate ELBS so much. We are so blessed to have our daughter in an enviornment that APPRECIATES each child for exactly who they are
Thanks for reading the blog! We are blessed to have a school and staff who appreciate each child! Thank you for your positive comments about ELBS.