How to Pick a Resolution… and Keep It!

As January 1 approaches, many of us find ourselves determining to stick to a resolution, be it losing weight, better budgeting, or even being kinder. However, despite our best intentions, estimates show that more than half of those who set a resolution are not able to keep it. As it turns out, there are some strategies behind keeping those promises.resolutions

  1. Pick a realistic goal, and break down the larger goal into smaller achievements. Many individuals will decide on a rather grandiose resolution, such as losing 50 pounds. While you may eventually reach this number, consider setting a goal such as losing 5 pounds per month.
  2. Keep track of your progress. There are literally dozens of apps out there designed to help with money, weight loss, meditation, time management… the list is endless! For those of you who may be less technologically-inclined, consider starting a Resolution Journal. It can be any small notebook or pad, but find time to jot down the successes – and bumps along the road – to your resolution. Which leads to the third tip…
  3. Don’t quit just because you might slip. To err is human; at some point, each of us will lapse on our goal. However, it’s not the mistake but how you respond to it that indicates whether you will reach your goal. Accepting the mistake and deciding to recommit can actually re-motivate you, as opposed to deciding that all efforts so far have been a waste.
  4. Use the buddy system. Nothing helps motivate you like having a friend alongside to pull you out of the days when you really don’t feel like going to the gym, etc. Likewise, being a source of motivation for your friend on his or her low days can also be a reinforce to yourself, as well.
  5. And finally… Celebrate your progress periodically! As you reach smaller goals or even just make it through the first four weeks, allow yourself to pause and reflect in your hard work or commitment. On a day like this, you may choose to treat yourself to a cupcake or glass of wine, take a day off from the gym, or buy yourself that book you’ve been eyeing… treating yourself is a great way to positively reinforce the work you’re doing. Just be sure to get back on the wagon the next day!

This year, Ryan and I are recommitting to eating nutritiously. We have created a chart of foods that we can eat regularly, foods we should try to never have, and how often we are allowed to treat ourselves! What are your goals for 2018? Any great tips? I would love to hear from you!2018

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Merry Christmas!

Wishing you and yours a warm and joyous holiday season! ~ Maureen

 

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Christmas Memories

Ryan's 1st Christmas Play & Santa CollageAs we approach Christmas, I began thinking about Christmases past. Ryan’s first Christmas was quite eventful. Erie was in the midst of the Blizzard of ‘93, and we were picking up my mother and driving to Uncle Joe’s house for Christmas dinner. Typically, it takes 45 minutes to get to his home – on this evening, it took one hour just to get to my mother’s home! There was no visibility, but we forged ahead in hopes that the weather would get better. By the time arrived, there were “No Travel” advisories on every TV station. Rather than risk driving off the road with a newborn baby, we turned around and drove home.

Since that first year, Ryan has experienced every kind of Christmas imaginable. Regardless of the weather, we have been fortunate to spend this special day surrounded by family and good friends.

From the start I encouraged Ryan to think about baby Jesus and the story of the first Christmas.  As the wise men brought Jesus three gifts, Ryan would receive three gifts on Christmas.  We’ve continued this through the years.  !  I have encouraged many to use the story of the three gifts of the magi for their children.

This year his gifts will be a Holiday Valley ski pass, Waldameer/Waterworld pass and golf lessons… but it’s a surprise, so don’t tell him! Just yesterday, Ryan wondered out loud what his three gifts would be.

This year, while it may not be a white Christmas, Ryan is hosting a Jingle & Mingle party for many of his cousins, aunts, and uncles. Ryan is turning out to be quite a party planner! He loves the idea of people coming to his house, choosing the goodies to eat and drink, and being in charge.

It will be a very Merry Christmas – I hope yours is as well!!Newborn Collage

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Monthly Research Updates

researchScientists and researchers are constantly uncovering more information related to autism, offering insights into the origins, possible causes and even at times potential cures. I come across dozens of articles on a weekly basis, some of which seem more important than others. I thought I would share on a monthly basis stories that caught my eye.

~Maureen


Large study shines spotlight on ‘mosaic’ mutations in autism

About 8 percent of de novo, or non-inherited, mutations in people with autism appear in only some of the body’s cells, according to an analysis of sequences from nearly 20,000 people. Previous studies missed the vast majority of these so-called ‘mosaic mutations.’ The findings add to mounting evidence that mosaic mutations contribute to autism risk. These mutations arise after conception; the later they occur, the fewer cells they affect.

Read the full article here.

https://spectrumnews.org/news/large-study-shines-spotlight-mosaic-mutations-autism/

Rethinking regression in autism

Epidemiological studies have found that anywhere from 15 to 40 percent of autism diagnoses fit the regressive type, with estimates varying wildly depending on how regression is defined. And regardless of the definition, estimates of regression’s prevalence (mainly as measured in the United States) have tended to rise as studies have become larger and more rigorous. This variability and expansion have both challenged the prevailing view of regression as an exception.

Read the full article here.

https://spectrumnews.org/features/deep-dive/rethinking-regression-autism/

Mice made with CRISPR usher in new era of autism research

Researchers have debuted two mouse models of autism made using the gene-editing tool CRISPR. Both strains lack one functional copy of CHD8, a gene with strong ties to autism. CRISPR allows researchers to quickly and efficiently insert specific mutations into single-cell mouse embryos. Several teams have used the method to make mouse models for other conditions, including Rett syndrome, an autism-related condition. The new mice represent the first use of the method to make models expressly for autism.

Read the full article here.

https://spectrumnews.org/news/mice-made-crispr-usher-new-era-autism-research/

MRI reveals striking brain differences in people with genetic autism

In the first major study of its kind, researchers using MRI have identified structural abnormalities in the brains of people with one of the most common genetic causes of autism, according to a new study published online in the journal Radiology. The abnormalities visible on brain images corresponded to cognitive and behavioral impairments in the study group, suggesting a future role for imaging in identifying people with autism who are in most urgent need of intervention.

Read the full article here.

https://medicalxpress.com/news/2017-08-mri-reveals-brain-differences-people.html?ref=yfp

Tune in next month for an update on autism research! Merry Christmas!

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Why We Sleep: Review

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Recently, I read a fascinating book, Why We Sleep. I am one of those people who really try to get 8 ½ – 9 hours of sleep a night. I simply feel so much better when I’m well rested. After I read Why We Sleep, I now know that my sleep schedule is critical to my physical and mental health. I want to share a few intriguing facts that I learned while reading the book, although I do encourage you to pick a copy up for yourself – it is a great read!

 

  • Routinely sleeping less than 6-7 hours a night demolishes your immune system
  • Insufficient sleep is a key lifestyle factor that determines whether or not you will develop Alzheimer’s
  • Every major organ within the body, or process within the brain, is optimally enhanced by sleep
  • Sleep deprivation impacts the DNA and learning-related genes in the brain
  • Individuals with autism show a 30-50% deficit in the amount of REM sleep they obtain, relative to children without autism. There is interest in discovering whether or not the REM sleep deficiency is a contributing factor to autism.
  • There is a definite link between sleep deficiency and ADHD: the symptoms of ADHD are nearly identical to those caused by lack of sleep.
  • The World Health Organization has now declared a sleep loss epidemic throughout industrialized nations.

 

Ryan has always struggled with sleep, often tossing and turning throughout the night.

 

sleepAfter reading this book, I believe that some of his lack of focus, inattentiveness, and increase in anxiety and repetitive behaviors may in fact be, in part, due to a poor night’s sleep. I recently purchased Ryan a “Queen size” bed and he seems to be sleeping better. Whether incidental or not, it does seem correlated to better focus and job performance! This book has helped me understand some of the “scientific” reasons for his behaviors. We are working on some new ways to promote better sleeping habits – I’ll keep you in the loop as we move further down that road!

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Where Does the Time Go?!

Ryan Bday Collage 2017Oh my goodness! Ryan turns 24 tomorrow!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yes, this is difficult for me to truly believe and accept  — 24 years have passed since he came home from the hospital!

I still remember it like it was yesterday… We were living in North East and, of course, we were in the midst of a snow storm.

I recall turning up the heat to make sure that his bedroom was warm.  My brother, Joe, who lived next door came by and said that the house felt like a steam room. I turned the heat down, needless to say!

Jeanne and Dianne came out to assist with his first bath. Dianne, the oldest in her family of 12, had lots of experience with bathing babies.  So I entreated her to help – everything was so new to me! We even did a video of “Ryan’s first bath” which I still have today.

In a blink of an eye, the next 23 years have passed. There have been peaks and valleys in this journey but I am truly proud of Ryan’s many successes. He has had a GREAT 2017!

Between working at Bello’s and BNI, exercising at LECOM, skiing at Holiday Valley in the winters and golfing at Kahkwa in the summers, I am trying to keep up with him!

As I look back over the years, I know that I have so much to be grateful for: family, friends, outstanding staff, and the Erie community that welcomes children with disabilities.

And the future???? My expectations continue to be high and who knows what the future will bring.  He has accomplished much more than even I would have dreamed!

I continue to believe that nothing is impossible and as Audrey Hepburn so simply said, “the word itself says I’m possible!”

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Thanksgiving… all year ’round!

Tgratitude2hanksgiving is one of my favorite holidays; no, not because of the turkey and stuffing! This holiday provides the opportunity to do some soul-searching and reflect upon what I’m grateful for. Moreover, this special time of year, when people go out of their way to be a little bit kinder and warmer, is a rejuvenating reminder of what we are grateful for all year long.

This year, I focused on how grateful I am for:

  • A supportive family, through the ups and downs of life
  • Ryan, who has helped me to grow in so many ways and has taught me to look at my glass as always “half full” and never “half empty”
  • Good health that allows me to keep up with my 23 year old son!
  • The creative, committed, enthusiastic, loyal staff members who work with our children, adults, and their families
  • An organization that is always striving to improve the lives of children and adults with disabilities through the latest technology, research, programming, and training
  • The children and adults themselves, who remind me every day that life is precious

Whether with a gratitude journal or in daily meditations, pausing to give thanks for even the smallest things on a regular basis can have a big impact in your mental health and overall happiness. I’ve started my gratitude journal for the year and I can’t wait to see where it takes me!

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Happy Thanksgiving

As I looked for a quote to share today, I was overwhelmed by choices and thought: why choose only one? I hope you have a wonderful holiday!

 

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Tips for a Stress-Free Thanksgiving!

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With Thanksgiving just around the corner, I was thinking about some of the tips that I’ve learned over the years to make the holiday a pleasant one for you, your child, and your family!

 

 

  • As you plan your holiday meal, be sure to include items that you know your child enjoys. Perhaps that means even a special side just for him/her.
  • Keep appetizers either under cover or not readily available. Ryan has his favorite appetizers and, if given the opportunity, will dine on those versus waiting for dinner.
  • Keep the dinner short and sweet! Your child will likely not be able to sit at the table for an extended period of time.
  • Consider a visual schedule to encourage your child to eat slowly. This is one I always used with Ryan, and today I encourage him to put his fork down after each bite and count to ten!
  • Allow your child time to be in a quiet space prior to dinner; he or she may want to watch a movie on the iPad, play with a favorite toy, or, as Ryan says, “Do preferred activities!”
  • Catch your child being “good.” I constantly reinforce Ryan for utilizing manners, eating slowly, and engaging in conversation with guests.
  • If your child does exhibit behavioral challenges, prepare your guests. Let them know how you handle disruptions and encourage them to follow your lead.
  • Create a social story for the day. Autism Speaks has a great social story available for download here.

We have a very low key Thanksgiving: we spend the morning at LECOM, and in the afternoon we decorate for Christmas. A local restaurant provides take-out, which takes away the stress of the day and allows me to truly enjoy the holiday!

Happy Thanksgiving to all!thankful.jpg

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The Good Doctor & Autism

Since its premiere in September, I have often been asked the question: “What do you think of the TV show, ‘The Good Doctor?’”gooddoc

If you don’t watch much television, “the Good Doctor” is about a surgical resident with autism who balances medical brilliance with interpersonal challenges. More popular than the TV hits “NICS” and “This Is Us,” “the Good Doctor” has 17.5 million total viewers every episode – that’s a lot of people!

Answering the question of what I think about the show is a tricky one. As I always say, if you’ve met one person with autism, you’ve met one person with autism. That is to say, each person with autism has his or her unique strengths and challenges. As autism is a spectrum disorder, we have many individuals who struggle with intellectual limitations, social interactions, and repetitive behaviors; and yet, we have individuals, like character Dr. Shaun Murphey, who are highly skilled, even brilliant, and would be considered on the “savant” end of the spectrum.

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I’m pleased to see that a character with a disability has been accepted into mainstream television; however, my concern is that, although entertaining, the Good Doctor might lead the general public to believe that all persons with autism look and act like Dr. Murphey. And if that is the case, why should persons with autism require funding for supports and services? Dr. Murphy obviously does not require these services. However, for many persons with autism, they are essential.

Looking forward, I hope that we begin seeing characters on TV and in movies who reflect the wide range of abilities and characteristics of those with autism. Perhaps Dr. Murphey could treat a patient with moderate to severe autism; wouldn’t that be interesting?

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